There are many things you should remember on your wedding day. The main thing being that this day should not be taken away from you just because other people may not support it. You deserve respect and the day you have always dreamed of. Here are some other important things to keep in mind: Take it easy. You will want everything to go perfectly but that won’t happen if you’re too stressed out.
Live in the moment. You will want to think ahead but don’t let yourself worry about what happens next. Stay focused on what happens right then and there. Understand that it won’t be exact. Nothing ever goes exactly the way you plan it in your head so don’t let those little details bother you, after all, life is full of wonderful imperfections. Congratulations on the happiest day of your life.
The ceremony is all about the couple, but the reception is also about your guests. You want to create an atmosphere with your reception that celebrates what you’ve all just experienced together. This is not the time to play by anyone else’s rules but yours and your partner’s.
Choose a location that will not distract you or your guests. You may opt to hold your reception in a location you and your partner have felt comfortable in the past. While something like a gay bar seems like an obvious choice, choose something that means something to you both. Rent out the hall of your favorite gallery, restaurant or hotel. For something a little more intimate, use the backyard of a loved one or rent out a beautiful park. Tailor fit your reception ideas to you and your partner and you can’t go wrong.
Have you dreamed your whole life of a church wedding? Maybe a simple, but elegant backyard wedding? Or how about a beach wedding? Now’s the time to make it come true.
If you have dreamed of being married in a church, understand that some conservative ministers may not agree to perform your ceremony. Don’t let this effect you negatively. Choose to respect their beliefs just as you wish for others to respect yours and you’ll save yourself a lot of stress. Simply find a church and minister that will be happy to help (chances are that it’ll be a shorter search than you think!) Or maybe the church setting seems a little overdone to you and your partner. These are all things to sit down and discuss in detail so you both end up with the wedding you want.
And you think choosing the wedding party is stressful? The guest list is likely going to be something you will be thinking about and planning over for weeks. When all is said and done, you still might feel like you should/shouldn’t have invited someone.
This is going to be something you and your partner will need to be completely open about. If there is anyone in your life that you think would ruin your special day, don’t invite them. This might seem kind of harsh but in the long run, you’re only saving the relationship you have with this difficult person. Select only the people that mean something to you both with the option to add more once the first draft of the list has been made. The most important thing to remember for any bride or groom is to keep your partner involved and do what you both want. This is going to be a great exercise in seeing how you will be able to handle life’s hurdles together through compromise and patience with each other.
Congratulations are definitely in order for you and your partner. Some people go their entire lives without finding the one they love and you should celebrate now that you’ve found each other with the people who mean the most to you. Before anything gets planned, you’ll feel happy letting your closest loved ones know that you are engaged.
We know that sometimes your family may not agree with your decision. This happens to people from all backgrounds and orientations so try to keep that in mind. Overall, your family should be excited for you and ready to be there with you on your big day. Remember that the people you consider to be family may not be blood relatives. As long as you’ve got the people that mean the most to you in your life, that is all that matters.
The ceremony should be a beautiful celebration. All eyes are going to be on you and your partner so make it a wedding everyone will remember. This moment is about you two so make it every bit as romantic as you want it to be.
Your ceremony should be something that shows off who you are as a couple. The first thing you will want to do is book the location. Once that has been decided, you will have more time to plan for the space you will be using. A church wedding is easy to decorate for a ceremony. You’ll also find that a backyard ceremony makes it simple to transition from wedding to reception. Some couples may want a traditional wedding while others want something that is loud and unique. Maybe you want to do a theme or just set the right color scheme. Consider every angle before deciding on anything.
This can be such a stressful process for brides and grooms. Unfortunately, this isn’t a movie or an episode of Friends where everyone just had the ideal number of groomsmen or bridesmaids. Figure out who you really want standing up there with you on that day.
It’s time to lay all of the clichés to rest here. You don’t need a magic number of groomsmen or bridesmaids. Also, just because you’re a man, it does not mean that you cannot have a woman on your side of the wedding party. If your bestie is the opposite gender, so what? They still deserve to be your best man/maid of honor and we promise that on the day of, you’ll be happy you chose them. Remember not to choose anyone out of obligation (like that cousin that will get offended if you don’t make them a part of the party) but be gentle about letting them down if they feel entitled to a position in your wedding party. Simply explain that you were trying to keep the wedding party minimal and they should understand. You may even consider giving them another job in the wedding if they really want to be involved.