There are many things you should remember on your wedding day. The main thing being that this day should not be taken away from you just because other people may not support it. You deserve respect and the day you have always dreamed of. Here are some other important things to keep in mind:
Take it easy. You will want everything to go perfectly but that won’t happen if you’re too stressed out.
Live in the moment. You will want to think ahead but don’t let yourself worry about what happens next. Stay focused on what happens right then and there.
Understand that it won’t be exact. Nothing ever goes exactly the way you plan it in your head so don’t let those little details bother you, after all, life is full of wonderful imperfections. Congratulations on the happiest day of your life.
The ceremony is all about the couple, but the reception is also about
your guests. You want to create an atmosphere with your reception that
celebrates what you’ve all just experienced together. This is not the
time to play by anyone else’s rules but yours and your partner’s.
Choose
a location that will not distract you or your guests. You may opt to
hold your reception in a location you and your partner have felt
comfortable in the past. While something like a gay bar seems like an
obvious choice, choose something that means something to you both. Rent
out the hall of your favorite gallery, restaurant or hotel. For
something a little more intimate, use the backyard of a loved one or
rent out a beautiful park. Tailor fit your reception ideas to you and
your partner and you can’t go wrong.
Have you dreamed your whole life of a church wedding? Maybe a simple,
but elegant backyard wedding? Or how about a beach wedding? Now’s the
time to make it come true.
If you have dreamed of being married
in a church, understand that some conservative ministers may not agree
to perform your ceremony. Don’t let this effect you negatively. Choose
to respect their beliefs just as you wish for others to respect yours
and you’ll save yourself a lot of stress. Simply find a church and
minister that will be happy to help (chances are that it’ll be a shorter
search than you think!) Or maybe the church setting seems a little
overdone to you and your partner. These are all things to sit down and
discuss in detail so you both end up with the wedding you want.
And you think choosing the wedding party is stressful? The guest list is
likely going to be something you will be thinking about and planning
over for weeks. When all is said and done, you still might feel like you
should/shouldn’t have invited someone.
This is going to be
something you and your partner will need to be completely open about. If
there is anyone in your life that you think would ruin your special
day, don’t invite them. This might seem kind of harsh but in the long
run, you’re only saving the relationship you have with this difficult
person. Select only the people that mean something to you both with the
option to add more once the first draft of the list has been made. The
most important thing to remember for any bride or groom is to keep your
partner involved and do what you both want. This is going to be a great
exercise in seeing how you will be able to handle life’s hurdles
together through compromise and patience with each other.
Congratulations are definitely in order for you and your partner. Some
people go their entire lives without finding the one they love and you
should celebrate now that you’ve found each other with the people who
mean the most to you. Before anything gets planned, you’ll feel happy
letting your closest loved ones know that you are engaged.
We
know that sometimes your family may not agree with your decision. This
happens to people from all backgrounds and orientations so try to keep
that in mind. Overall, your family should be excited for you and ready
to be there with you on your big day. Remember that the people you
consider to be family may not be blood relatives. As long as you’ve got
the people that mean the most to you in your life, that is all that
matters.
The ceremony should be a beautiful celebration. All eyes are going to be
on you and your partner so make it a wedding everyone will remember.
This moment is about you two so make it every bit as romantic as you
want it to be.
Your ceremony should be something that shows off
who you are as a couple. The first thing you will want to do is book the
location. Once that has been decided, you will have more time to plan
for the space you will be using. A church wedding is easy to decorate
for a ceremony. You’ll also find that a backyard ceremony makes it
simple to transition from wedding to reception. Some couples may want a
traditional wedding while others want something that is loud and unique.
Maybe you want to do a theme or just set the right color scheme.
Consider every angle before deciding on anything.
This can be such a stressful process for brides and grooms. Unfortunately, this isn’t a movie or an episode of Friends
where everyone just had the ideal number of groomsmen or bridesmaids.
Figure out who you really want standing up there with you on that day.
It’s
time to lay all of the clichés to rest here. You don’t need a magic
number of groomsmen or bridesmaids. Also, just because you’re a man, it
does not mean that you cannot have a woman on your side of the wedding
party. If your bestie is the opposite gender, so what? They still
deserve to be your best man/maid of honor and we promise that on the day
of, you’ll be happy you chose them. Remember not to choose anyone out
of obligation (like that cousin that will get offended if you don’t make
them a part of the party) but be gentle about letting them down if they
feel entitled to a position in your wedding party. Simply explain that
you were trying to keep the wedding party minimal and they should
understand. You may even consider giving them another job in the wedding
if they really want to be involved.
